tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3314718731266583461.post3206052147028366007..comments2018-12-02T09:30:54.324-05:00Comments on Golden Rule Living: Dealing with a BetrayalDeirdra Millerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02593143834412258349noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3314718731266583461.post-54551021061845784972011-11-18T12:02:09.368-05:002011-11-18T12:02:09.368-05:00Can't wait to hear what conclusion your furthe...Can't wait to hear what conclusion your further study brings you too. Forgiveness is a difficult topic because it's so difficult to do but I agree with everything you said in your post. My husband and I differ on this topic as I'm sure many people do. I firmly believe whether they ask for it or not I must forgive them. I don't think that means I must be their best friend and allow them to "walk all over me" but I do believe I am commanded to be at peace with them as much as is in me and that means I let it go, forgive and move on. If I can't do that then it controls me. My husband believes that they must ask for it in order to receive forgiveness, otherwise he doesn't have to forgive. That, to me, is a scary position to take. Mainly because when I think about it for myself, if I take the position that they must ask for it first then I continue to relive the hurt, anger, frustration over whatever it is that happened and my heart becomes hardened. Why would I do that to myself. Not forgiving allows it to fester and grow into something it should not be. I think the problem is that we confuse God's forgiveness with our own forgiveness of others. Yes, if we want forgiveness from God then we must ask for it and act accordingly but we are not God. Even Jesus on the cross asked God to "forgive them they know not what they do".....now that doesn't mean they were saved right then and God forgave them of their sins but I do believe it means Jesus forgave them for their treatment of him and was asking God to not hold it against them when they saw their error and came to him for salvation. Just my thoughts on a difficult topic....margothttp://faithfullyrelyongod.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.com